What does God say about being a good wife?

 

 

There are many verses in the Bible about being a wife. Very interesting because according to the Bible, not many wives including myself are nothing like what is described. Why do you think this is? Did we learn to be so different from how God intended us to be because that is how we were raised, because of society, or is it just to hard to be submissive? How do you remember your Mother treating your Father? Last time we talked about being a Mother and I would say that is so much easier to be really good at than being a wife. Mostly because we have unconditional love for our children, and not all the time we do for our husbands. We love them if they are doing all the right things, but the minute they make us mad that is it... it can be much harder to forgive them and move on. It is very easy for us to find their faults, what we don't like about them, what we would like to change, and sometimes while doing that we forget what we love about them. We should really think about and re-examine why we fell in love with them in the first place. They are still the same person. Also we should really think about how we are as wives. Sure we cook, clean, go to the grocery, etc. But how is our attitude, are we really doing our best to have a happy marriage. I mean really how important they are to us. They are the men we chose to marry. They are the Father to our children. Shouldn't we be good to them? Instead sometimes we are more respectful and nicer to strangers.

Lets read some scriptures about what God says about being a wife...

Proverbs 31

1 Peter 3 1:6

Ephesians 5: 22-33

Man's logic and ideas, coupled with a woman's sensitivity, blend to aid each other in making decisions. Learning to hear the voice of the Lord is one area where both husband and wife can confirm to each other what the Spirit is saying as they each seek the will of God on any given circumstance. The woman will usually have a certain inclination about it, while the man will have a definite idea regarding the situation. The ideal is, of course, for both husband and wife to walk totally submitted unto the Lord. When this is not the case, the woman should not disregard her husband's advice, for the Lord can and does speak through unsaved husbands. When the wife is submitted to the Lord, the Lord will deal with her husband. Extreme submission where the wife never offers advice to her husband, or is never allowed to think for herself, is out of balance as God did not intend any human being to be another's "door mat." This is an example of that domineering "Jezebel spirit." People under this kind of dominance need deliverance, as do the ones imposing their domineering spirit. The Lord wants every area and dimension of our lives to be balanced in Him.

Some wives neglect their husbands and homes by engaging in too many spiritual pursuits. Of course, the opposite problem can also exist in our homes. Other problems arise when wives are so neat and fastidious about their homes that so much time is spent on cleaning and cooking that they neglect the much needed time of family worship and fellowship. Houses then become a "shrine" to be admired, placing more emphasis on the residence than the residents. Women can become "Marthas" instead of "Marys.''

We must begin by seeing the kind of woman we are. The woman in Proverbs 31:28, "Her children arise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her," or the one in Proverbs 21:19, "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." I'm sure our desire is that we fit into the category of the first type, for we certainly do not want to be referred to as angry and contentious. But I wonder, if we honestly examined our hearts and motives and let the Lord turn His searchlight on us, if we might not see some areas where anger and contention do exist in our lives. Perhaps we do not openly voice our anger, but inside we feel it toward our husbands or children; and because we do not voice it, we have feelings of resentment toward them.

Jesus, in the New Testament, talked much about our thought life and our inner feelings. Remember as he spoke to the religious leaders of His day, He reproved them for their evil hearts even though their outward deeds appeared to be right and good. We can outwardly do our duties as mothers and wives, but inside our hearts we may not really be lovingly ministering to them. We may be motivated by duty, not love. None of us really appreciate people doing things for us simply because it is their job. The real witness to others is when we do something simply because we love them. A lot of Spirit-filled Christians are eager to show the love of Jesus to everyone else, but those of their own households often suffer from a lack of love. Let us certainly show the love of Jesus to all we meet, but let's remember to show it in our homes first, asking the Lord to give us the true Spirit of love in performing our daily chores."Lord, may we turn the daily tasks into celebrations of love. Amen.''

"God, I am resentful toward this person; I can't help it; I don't want to be like this; help me change. Lord, help me to be the kind of wife and mother that will inspire my husband and children to rise up and call me blessed. Amen."

Proverbs 14:1

What kind of Mother does God want us to be?

March 7

What a blessing it is to be a Mother...What kind of Mother does he want us to be?

Is there any higher calling for a woman than being a Mother? To be handed these gifts from above, intrusted to raise them? What a huge honor, responsibility, and Joy.

John 16:21 When a woman is giving birth, she has sorrow because her hour has come, but when she has delivered the baby, she no longer remembers the anguish, for the joy that a human being has been born into the world.

We talked about this a little last time we met, and how blessed we are because we truly enjoy our children. We love to be them, we all make sacrifices to be with them as much as we can. What a gift to know how precious our children are, and to not take that gift for granted. Some parents do not enjoy being with their children, and we do not understand that.

In Psalm 127:3 it says “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, (inherited from), the fruit of the womb, a reward. Like arrows in the hands of warrior are the children of ones youth.

So not only does God say that they are inherited to us from him, a gift, a reward, also they are like arrows in the hands of warriors. Which is pretty powerful, our kids are like arrows in the hands of warriors. We are the warriors, and how important it is to raise our children, who are given to us by God, in his way. To insure that our children will live a life full of Gods Love, Grace, and have a purposeful and joyous life. What a huge responsibility he has given us as a Mother.

In the Bible God says he wants us to be available to our children all the time.

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 And these words that I command you today shall be on your ear. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk to them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you like down, and whey you rise.

Deuteronomy 4:10-How on the day that you stood before the Lord your God at Horeb, the Lord said to me. Gather the people to me, that I may let them hear my words, so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on earth, and that they may teach their children so.

What does it mean to fear the Lord?

Provers 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.

Proverbs 22:15 Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him. (Folly means lack of good sense.)

In the Bible there are good examples of being a Mother who is faithful. Mary who was the mother to Jesus. Hannah, was the Mother to the prophet Samuel, she longed to have a child, and told God that if he gave her a son she would dedicate him to the Lord, Naomi was the Mother-in-law to Ruth. Elizabeth was the Mother of John the babtist. Also inn the Bible it speaks of Lois who was faithful to god and passed her faith onto Eunice, who influenced her son Timothy to follow God, who then preached the Gospel. The faith we instill in our children are a legacy, that they will pass on.

I read once that a Mother who loves God, will not worry about how much money their child makes when they are adults, but instead how faithful they will be, and what they will do for the Kingdom. I like that. I know we want our children to be able to take care of themselves, but we know that true happiness comes from giving your life to God. Not from money. We all want our children to be happy. The only way to true happiness is through him. He is the way. Not their career, house, car, etc. It is our job as a Mother to make sure they know that. We love our children so much, we are here to show them God's love, to teach and encourage them to follow the Lord.

I have from experience seen what a difference it has made in adults to have that foundation as a child. There is a knowledge and peace about them that stands out. It is as if they know a secret that those who have grown up not in the word do not know. Something that you don't understand, until you come to that place yourself. I did not get there myself until I was an adult. Think about the believers who grew up in a home that made knowing God a priority, are they different? I am thinking right now, and I can say for sure YES! The people I am thinking of are great witnesses to how growing up in a Godly home can make your life so much more joyous and peaceful. Praise God that our children will know his love and peace.

It is very simple our children are a gift from God, and our gift to our children is to show them the Love of God.

We also need to realize that even though we take our children to church, read them the Bible, and counsel them on how to handle situations. How we act is such an influence on them. We can tell them to live a Godly life and how important it is, but if we are not doing that ourselves this can be very confusing to our children. For example we tell them not to have fear or worry, but we may be faced with a situation ourselves where we should be putting our full trust in the Lord and we don't. Or we tell them how important it is to love everyone and not judge, but they hear us talking bad about a stranger or even a friend. We teach them to be slow to anger like the Bible says, but we get mad if someone cuts in front of us while we are driving. We teach them that our body is a temple of God, and that we need to take care of it and then they see us eat 2 dozen cookies. We tell them that knowing God will bring joy to their life, but they may see us being grumpy and sad for no reason. I think it is most important to be a good example for them. Actions speak louder than words.

We have to be their example of how when God's love is inside of you that you are different. You are full of the Holy Spirit and Joyful. Show them by example how you want their life to be. They will learn how to be parents from us. They will learn how to treat their husbands and wives from us, from how we do it, more so than how we tell them to do it.

See being a Mother is the hardest, funnest, and most important thing we will do in this life. We know from last time we met that we have a job of making disciples. How important is it to raise disciples?

1 Corinthians 11:1

“Be imitators of me, just as I also am of Christ”